What I Do

Writer & Blogger

I’ve wanted to be a writer ever since I was six years old. When I held my first scribbled book in my hands, I just knew.

So I read compulsively, earned a perfect score on my verbal SAT II, and graduated from Vassar with an honors degree in English Literature.

But of course I still had lot to learn, so I started a blog in 2011. To this day, I write about getting past perfect and rising up real at A Wish Come Clear.

I’m currently at work on a full-length book about recovering from perfectionism, and I’m represented by Angela Scheff of The Christopher Ferebee Literary Agency.


My husband Jonathan and I offer a full suite of web development services, helping nonprofits and small businesses put their websites to work.

Together, we transform sub-par sites and help people feel confident about sharing their work with the world.

We specialize in working with organizations in the special needs sector, thereby utilizing our work experience as caregivers and administrators for L’Arche.

Visit us at to learn about our combined offerings.


I’m an introvert through and through, but I love getting up in front of a crowd and telling true stories. I’ve given talks and breakouts at events across the country.

I get pre-talk jitters like everyone else, but taking the mic? That part is magic.

In September 2014, I gave my first TEDx talk, “Perfectionism Doesn’t Protect Us.”

In September 2016, I returned to the TEDx stage as an All Star speaker with my second talk, “You Don’t Owe Anyone An Interaction.”

Caroline Garnet McGraw's Bio

Getting past perfect & rising up real.

Caroline Garnet McGraw is the creator of A Wish Come Clear, a community of thousands who are getting past perfect and rising up real together. Caroline is represented by literary agent Angela Scheff of The Christopher Ferebee Literary Agency; a full-length book is forthcoming.

Her writing has been featured on over 80 popular websites, and her 2015 HuffPost Women piece, “You Don’t Owe Anyone An Interaction” went viral, gathering over 100k likes across various platforms.

Caroline has given keynote presentations at conferences across the country. She spoke as part of TEDxBirmingham’s 2016 All Star lineup, and she was also a featured speaker at TEDxBirminghamSalon in 2014.

  • My Myers-Briggs type

    INFJ: I love going past shallow-end small-talk and wading into deeper conversational waters. (Big 5 fan? I score high on Agreeableness & Conscientiousness.) Let's have tea and discuss our favorite authors from Martha Beck to Anne Lamott to Phillip Pullman to Charlotte Bronte.

  • I figure skated competitively.

    When I mention this, people nod as if to say, "That explains a lot." Yet it took me years to recognize my competitive streak, because I love the idea that when one succeeds, we all succeed. The best description of these dichotomies I’ve seen was a t-shirt that read: "I will kick your ass at yoga. Namaste."

  • My Top 5 Desert Island Movies

    Strictly Ballroom, Breakfast at Tiffany’s, About Time, Proof, and Good Will Hunting. I’m not sure why 2 out of 5 are about math geniuses, since being a math genius is not something I can relate to at all …

As Featured On

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The Huffington Post

Contributor, The Huffington Post, with several front-page posts at HuffPost Women. “You Don’t Owe Anyone An Interaction” went viral in August 2015.
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“You Don’t Owe Anyone An Interaction”; featured at TEDxBirmingham’s All Star Salon, September 2016; “Perfectionism Doesn’t Protect Us”; featured at TEDxBirminghamSalon, September 2014
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“What We Have Left: A Letter”; guest post at New York Times bestselling author Glennon Doyle Melton’s blog, Momastery; December 2013
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Gretchen Rubin

“Before and After: Do A Little Work, Every Single Day”; guest post at New York Times bestselling author Gretchen Rubin’s blog; January 2014
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“The Next Time You’re Terrified to Do Something, Do This”; guest post at MindBodyGreen, October 2014
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The Art of Simple

“Caroline’s courage in making a major life change”; guest post at author Tsh Oxenreider’s blog; September 2014
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SheLoves Magazine

“What if God is a Woman Keeping Watch?”; guest post at SheLoves Magazine, April 2014
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Positively Positive

“You Don’t Owe Anyone An Interaction”; syndicated on Positively Positive, September 2015


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Get in touch

Inquire about speaking engagements, interviews, and more using the form, or simply email caroline[at]carolinemcgraw[dot]com.