What I Do


I’ve been a writer since I was six years old. From my first scribbled book on, I just knew.

So I read compulsively, earned a perfect verbal SAT II score, and graduated from Vassar with an honors degree in English Literature.

But of course I still had lot to learn, so I started a blog in 2011. I write about trading perfectionism for possibility at A Wish Come Clear.

A full-length book is in progress, and I’m represented by Angela Scheff of The Christopher Ferebee Literary Agency.


I’m an introvert through and through, but I love getting up in front of a crowd and telling true stories. I’ve given talks and breakouts at events across the country.

I get pre-talk jitters like everyone else, but taking the mic? That part is magic.

In September 2014, I gave my first TEDx talk, “Perfectionism Doesn’t Protect Us.”

In September 2016, I returned to the TEDx stage as an All Star speaker with my second talk, “You Don’t Owe Anyone An Interaction.”


Did you know that the most common regret of the dying is, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”…?

Life is too short to waste on self-doubt, confusion, and people-pleasing.

Enter: Clarity Coaching for Recovering Perfectionists.

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Caroline Garnet McGraw's Bio

Getting past perfect & rising up real.

Caroline Garnet McGraw is an author, speaker, and coach for recovering perfectionists. She's the creator of A Wish Come Clear, a community of thousands trading perfectionism for possibility.

Caroline is represented by literary agent Angela Scheff of The Christopher Ferebee Literary Agency; a full-length book is forthcoming. Her writing has been featured on over 80 popular websites, and her 2015 HuffPost Women piece, “You Don’t Owe Anyone An Interaction” went viral, gathering over 100k likes across various platforms.

Caroline has given keynote presentations at conferences across the country. She spoke as part of TEDxBirmingham’s 2016 All Star lineup, and she was also a featured speaker at TEDxBirminghamSalon in 2014.

  • My Myers-Briggs type

    INFJ, The Counselor. I love going past shallow-end small-talk and wading into deeper conversational waters. (Big 5 fan? I score high on Agreeableness & Conscientiousness.) Let's have tea and discuss all the things. Hearing about your goals and dreams - & helping you realize them - is pure delight.

  • My Enneagram Type

    Type 1: The Perfectionist. (No one is surprised.) My wing is 9, the Peacemaker. Is it any wonder that my childhood vision of heaven was a place without any barriers between beloved people? Though I adore the Enneagram now, it took me ages to get into it because the types are numbered and I was scared that there was math involved.

  • My Top 5 Desert Island Movies

    Strictly Ballroom, Breakfast at Tiffany’s, About Time, Proof, and Good Will Hunting. I’m not sure why 2 out of 5 are about math geniuses, since being a math genius is not something I can relate to at all. But all of these movies are about the journey from lost to found, from fear to love.

As Featured On

Selected Contributions
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The Huffington Post

Contributor, The Huffington Post, with several front-page posts at HuffPost Women. “You Don’t Owe Anyone An Interaction” went viral in August 2015.
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“You Don’t Owe Anyone An Interaction”; featured at TEDxBirmingham’s All Star Salon, September 2016; “Perfectionism Doesn’t Protect Us”; featured at TEDxBirminghamSalon, September 2014
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“What We Have Left: A Letter”; guest post at New York Times bestselling author Glennon Doyle Melton’s blog, Momastery; December 2013
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Gretchen Rubin

“Before and After: Do A Little Work, Every Single Day”; guest post at New York Times bestselling author Gretchen Rubin’s blog; January 2014
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“The Next Time You’re Terrified to Do Something, Do This”; guest post at MindBodyGreen, October 2014
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The Art of Simple

“Caroline’s courage in making a major life change”; guest post at author Tsh Oxenreider’s blog; September 2014
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SheLoves Magazine

“What if God is a Woman Keeping Watch?”; guest post at SheLoves Magazine, April 2014
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Positively Positive

“You Don’t Owe Anyone An Interaction”; syndicated on Positively Positive, September 2015


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Get in touch

Inquire about speaking engagements, interviews, and more using the form, or simply email caroline[at]carolinemcgraw[dot]com.